{"id":9696,"date":"2020-07-01T23:12:00","date_gmt":"2020-07-01T23:12:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.membershipmatters.com\/fr\/?p=4558"},"modified":"2020-09-30T16:55:23","modified_gmt":"2020-09-30T16:55:23","slug":"le-travail-emotionnel-qui-porte-le-poids-de-votre-relation","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/devblog.foresters.com\/fr-ca\/mieux-etre-fr-ca\/le-travail-emotionnel-qui-porte-le-poids-de-votre-relation\/","title":{"rendered":"Le travail \u00e9motionnel : qui porte le poids de votre relation?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-4546\" src=\"https:\/\/www.membershipmatters.com\/fr\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/emotional-labour.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"630\" height=\"300\"><\/p>\n<p>Pensez un instant \u00e0 votre m\u00e9nage et demandez-vous quel adulte est g\u00e9n\u00e9ralement charg\u00e9 de planifier les repas, d&#8217;organiser les r\u00e9parations et l&#8217;entretien de la maison, de programmer les \u00e9v\u00e9nements familiaux, d&#8217;organiser les sorties, de savoir o\u00f9 tout se trouve, de coordonner les activit\u00e9s parascolaires, de se souvenir des anniversaires et autres dates sp\u00e9ciales, d&#8217;acheter des cadeaux, d&#8217;envoyer des cartes, de programmer et de se souvenir des rendez-vous, et de rappeler \u00e0 toute la maisonn\u00e9e de se tenir au courant des t\u00e2ches \u00e0 accomplir?<\/p>\n<p>Dans de nombreux cas, une seule personne se charge de l&#8217;essentiel de l&#8217;organisation et de la programmation n\u00e9cessaires au bon fonctionnement d&#8217;un m\u00e9nage.<\/p>\n<p>Ces t\u00e2ches font souvent partie d\u2019une cat\u00e9gorie appel\u00e9e \u00ab&nbsp;travail \u00e9motionnel&nbsp;\u00bb, ainsi nomm\u00e9e parce qu&#8217;il impose une charge mentale suppl\u00e9mentaire \u00e0 la personne charg\u00e9e de s&#8217;occuper de ces choses. Ce travail suppl\u00e9mentaire non r\u00e9mun\u00e9r\u00e9 permet aux autres membres du m\u00e9nage d&#8217;\u00eatre heureux et organis\u00e9s, mais il est souvent invisible et, par cons\u00e9quent, l&#8217;ampleur de la charge que ce travail suppl\u00e9mentaire impose \u00e0 la personne qui en est responsable passe souvent elle aussi inaper\u00e7ue.<\/p>\n<p>Cette r\u00e9partition in\u00e9gale des t\u00e2ches de gestion invisibles \u2013 et le manque d&#8217;appr\u00e9ciation de tout ce que ce travail implique \u2013 peut parfois entra\u00eener des tensions et du ressentiment.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Comment pouvez-vous changer cette dynamique?<\/strong><strong>&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n<ol>\n<li><strong>Communiquez<\/strong>. Lorsque vous \u00eates tous deux d\u00e9tendus et que vous avez le temps d&#8217;en discuter, faites savoir \u00e0 votre partenaire que vous vous sentez d\u00e9pass\u00e9s par les r\u00e9flexions et la planification suppl\u00e9mentaires dont vous \u00eates responsables. Il se peut qu&#8217;il ne se rende m\u00eame pas compte de la quantit\u00e9 de travail suppl\u00e9mentaire que vous effectuez chaque semaine ni de l&#8217;usure que vous ressentez \u00e0 cause de votre responsabilit\u00e9.<\/li>\n<li><strong>D\u00e9l\u00e9guez<\/strong>. Rassemblez-vous et d\u00e9terminez comment vous pouvez r\u00e9partir la liste des t\u00e2ches de mani\u00e8re \u00e0 all\u00e9ger votre charge de travail. Rappelez \u00e0 votre partenaire qu&#8217;il ne peut pas non plus \u00eatre de votre responsabilit\u00e9 de contr\u00f4ler cet arrangement \u2013 cela ne ferait qu&#8217;ajouter une autre t\u00e2che \u00e0 votre liste.<\/li>\n<li><strong>L\u00e2chez prise<\/strong>. Lorsque c&#8217;est vous qui avez pris le contr\u00f4le de la gestion et de l&#8217;administration du m\u00e9nage et de tous ses membres, il peut \u00eatre difficile de l\u00e2cher prise, m\u00eame si vous \u00eates \u00e9puis\u00e9 par la situation depuis longtemps. Acceptez le fait que renoncer \u00e0 un certain contr\u00f4le signifie que les choses ne se passeront peut-\u00eatre pas exactement comme elles se passaient lorsque vous les organisiez. R\u00e9sistez \u00e0 la tentation de vous en m\u00ealer pour \u00ab&nbsp;faire les choses correctement&nbsp;\u00bb en vous rappelant les avantages du l\u00e2cher-prise : vous avez moins de t\u00e2ches quotidiennes \u00e0 vous soucier et plus de temps libre \u00e0 prendre soin de vous.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Revisitez la situation<\/strong>. Acceptez de revoir l&#8217;arrangement une fois par semaine pour vous assurer que tout fonctionne comme pr\u00e9vu. C&#8217;est le moment de faire part de vos pr\u00e9occupations concernant les t\u00e2ches qui vous ont \u00e9t\u00e9 discr\u00e8tement renvoy\u00e9es, et de f\u00e9liciter et remercier votre partenaire d&#8217;avoir pris le relais et d&#8217;avoir ainsi all\u00e9g\u00e9 votre fardeau.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Reconnectez<\/strong>. Si la tension provoqu\u00e9e par ce probl\u00e8me vous a fait vous sentir un peu distant, faites un effort pour vous reconnecter en faisant des choses que vous aviez l&#8217;habitude d&#8217;appr\u00e9cier ensemble, ou en organisant une soir\u00e9e sp\u00e9ciale. Assurez-vous simplement de la planifier ensemble!<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>Pour obtenir plus de conseils sur la mani\u00e8re de r\u00e9partir les responsabilit\u00e9s du m\u00e9nage afin qu&#8217;une personne ne soit pas submerg\u00e9e de responsabilit\u00e9s, consultez le site de <a href=\"https:\/\/www.verywellmind.com\/chores-conflict-in-marriage-2300980\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Very Well Mind<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>417957E FR 08\/20<\/p>\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>La r\u00e9partition in\u00e9gale des t\u00e2ches de gestion du foyer et de la famille peut entra\u00eener des tensions. 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